Father and Mother, I love you. Aren’t we all aware about this definition of Family, but does it end there? I don’t think so.
While we graduate in different phases of our life from being a child, to a school going smart human, to a jazzy collegian to a person who has to make career choices, we come across so many people, relationships. Some die, some fade away and a few still survive even when we turn 50. It’s very important to understand who played family at what stage of our life. One consistent pair of people who stay in every situation are no doubt our parents and the core family but are they actually aware of what the child goes through? Yes, there are so many articles on parenting these days, so many talks and advises on how to keep your child close but then if we actually do that, do they still not fall for traps of the world?
From early days of our growing up, we have been told about so many days like Friendship day, Valentine’s day, Mother’s day, Father’s day and what not. We are taught to celebrate relationships which is an amazing thing. Today, in this generation we are ditching the fact of having one day to celebrate them but I contradict on this because our lives have become so busy that even after we realize that every day is important to our relationships, we are not able to spend some quality time with them and so I feel if we have a dedicated day to shift our focus, take some time out and celebrate their existence, there’s nothing wrong in it. Coming back to the point of different phases, we spend a lot of time out of our home, we meet different people in school, tuition, relatives, cousins, friends, acquaintances and much more. We tend to bond with people outside our core family and they are someone who do not judge us for our choices. We get closer to them and listen to their story too. There’s this kind of release, acceptance and approval. We form family out of our core family. Don’t we?
If you go back to your past and reminisce about those days, some faces might definitely flash up in your thoughts who made a difference to your life and to who, you gave your everything. Yes, to me I think that’s a family too. It’s not necessary that this family will continue to be with you till you breathe your last but at that moment, the most important people to you were them. May it be someone helping you finish your assignments, listening to your heartbreaks, enjoying your favorite movies, going out and spending some great time at hills, so on and so forth. We do not restrict ourselves to where we are born, who brought us up but the moment we are born, we tend to expand, our circles, our imagination, our ambitions and our goals. Your focus on certain relationships and your passions define another family, it gives you what you want to achieve, a sense of satisfaction. Doesn’t it?
To sum this up in short, I’d like to say, Family is who you want to define for yourself, your core family is the most important, it will stay when no one will but when you have a few more families around you can rely on, your fears and insecurities will tend to fade away and that trust factor will light up your life a little more.
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