Listening has become a rare thing to notice nowadays, most of us are ready with opinions or reactions on that very moment. It might help you sometimes to appear proactive or intelligent but on the whole it’s not too welcomed by the person in front of you who is trying to complete him/herself. Here’s what I have observed about people who listen and then keep the conversation going so beautifully that they win the game:
1. They Don’t Hurry Up to Respond
They are not masters, they might not even be intelligent than you but they are patient and that makes them a winner. They know how exactly to pitch in when required and to not interfere while someone is trying to say something. One, it appears too messy, two they get a fair chance to not speak about something unnecessary or something which might be used against them as a response. Being patient can be rewarding but being late might leave a bad impression. Know when to strike.
2. They Talk to Themselves Before Speaking Out Loud
This might sound weird but it is like a quick introspection. Someone very well said once, “Think before you speak.” These people know how to streamline their thoughts, know what to discard and what to actually put on the table. Being too calculative is not the need of the hour but being cautious about making sense will always save you from trouble. Experience an introspection quickie 😉
3. They Know What Could Be An Expected Response
It’s not always that the outcomes are unexpected. Listeners judge others by body language, the way they speak and have an idea of how much they would know in the first 10-15 minutes being into the conversation. They can make out what would be the other person’s next come back and so their perception is framed accordingly to either bowl them off or keep the conversation going productively.
4. They Make Sure You Are Convinced
I have heard this so much that I can recall of this right now, “If you cannot convince them, confuse them.” Not that it’s too advisable, but to keep the ball rolling, listeners make a point to keep others thinking about what they just said so that they get even more time to come back with a firm response. If you are good at communicating, you would have mastered this art already. 😀
5. They Know When To Put The Ball In Your Court
It’s not always the one who finishes first wins, but the one who leaves the other to come back to you later, is an ardent winner. Listeners will make you feel confident enough that all your points make sense but their last blow will leave you bewildered. You might cross your legs, jump in joy or give a high five to your team thinking you won the conversation but somewhere inside, you will then realize that the last shot was from the other side and you need to up the game even further.
Listening is not difficult, it’s just a matter of practice. The more you listen, the more you give it a thought, the better you will be able to justify it, put your point and walk out with dazzling confidence. Hope this article helps you listen better. 😉
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