The first lines when i start writing on this topic comes to me are:
“Hum Kaale Hai Toh Kya Hua Dilwale Hai,
Hum Tere Tere Tere Chahne Wale Hai”
Knowing the fact that any relationship if comes with true intention doesn’t have conditions or any specific requirement but it just happens with time and according to our surroundings. We believe that we were meant to meet and that is why we did and now we are happy that we met but somewhere during living your Life you think of so many things at a time and create so many so called “I want this” or “Wish i could have this” vibrations around you that slowly and gradually you start searching the qualities or the traits you would really like to have in someone close enough to you and believe it or not we stop where we find our requirements are fulfilled. This is no wrong actually because at least you are being true to your self that you are going to be good to a set of like minded humans. If you have this approach and if you even start with the narrow thinking and you be self less enough to love that specific set, you realize the importance of the Whole.
Let’s take an example of a parent-child relationship. The child doesn’t get to go around or meet people till he/she grows up and understands how relations are maintained and till that Parents are the only one the child is around and the attachment is so continuous that the child automatically gets that feeling of giving back to the parents. Once he/she gets to go out, meet new people, discuss their thinking he/she has to be in and around that small four walls of the house. Similarly when we are exposed to different people, who at the start we called “Strangers” we start making a perception of them according to our set of beliefs and values but the truth is everyone has their own. No doubt we get so many people around who would possibly have the same even and we start getting same ideas and we always connect much. So when we get attached and connect to them the expectations even grow but the thing is we start sacrificing just to retain the relationship which after so much of watering had grown up so well. We start giving up on arguments and let it be, just because we know how important the relation is.
Talking about priorities now, we always have in our mind that who has been the most important in your Life and you know that no matter what the situation is the person would understand enough to just be calm till the time is stable. Now the main Game of Life is to settle these but the main realization is that you have Clusters and each cluster would have a top most position. Like if its family you have some one closest like Mother, Father, Siblings etc., when you have friends you have that one awesome friend of your Life whom you would never like to lose, when its your relationships you know that Special person is the one who would walk the path of Life with hands in hands for Life, when its work you know someone you could rely on blindly to understand some situations. All what we do that we just make up one cluster and add up all of these and try to sort it out and try to compare between them and that is where the main War starts. Friends will say “Oh, now that you are in a relationship, why will you find time for us?” The special one will say “All the time you talk of is just Friends, Friends, Friends. Hate you” Family will say all the time you are on phone, laptop or out of the house, you need to settle down. Work colleagues will say man just give us some time too, all the time is you have to rush at your place.
All what i just want to convey through this article is that everyone, every single person has its own set of clusters in which you have the foremost priority too but just don’t do the silly mistake of comparing it with others. When you are said special it is meant, never hurt that persons Respect for you which took so much time to grew.
Peace. Love. Blessings. Be Awesome. 🙂